For Better...or for worse...till death do us part

A couple of days ago while we were in the hospital room visiting Kelly we were chatting with her husband Bill. The conversation was around Kelly and how she was a good wife and mother. While we were in the room there was a hospital chaplain in the room and he asked Bill if he had many "Quarrels" with Kelly.....I was thinking wow...that’s a strange question to ask at a time like this. Bill responded to the man's question and said honestly, we've been married 20 years and we've had a great marriage. He went on to say that of course in every marriage you have your little fights, but Kelly always forgave easily and just went on with her day.
That conversation brings me to this blog I want to write about marriage. I started thinking about my marriage and really how happy and blessed I am. I don't want to sit here acting as if we have the perfect marriage where we don't go through seasons because I would be lying to you. In American today so many marriages are failing and giving up on the vows that they vowed when they were at the altar. A couple of weeks ago I was in my small group for mothers and the speaker talked about marriage. As we started talking during discussion time about our marriages I was amazed at how many women really aren't happy. A lot of the women were saying their lives are so busy with everything else by the time their husband walks through the door they have nothing left to give. Those conversations really stuck with me, it really made me check myself and ask the question I'm I too busy for my marriage? Have we lost that connection? I really want o fight for my marriage and live in such a way where on don't hold onto things...where I forgive Dave if he hurts me. I think that is happening in marriages today is that we don't forgive, we hold onto things, our lives are SO busy we forget about the person that should be one of the most important things in our lives. As time progresses we don't even know who each other really is.

You'll notice that it's not too often people sit around bragging about the marriage they have because it's not the popular thing to do, instead it's quite the opposite people complain about what their husbands are not. I don't know about you but I would love to see the divorce rate in this world change, I would love to see people willing to fight for their marriages, I would love to see people willing to die to themselves and forgive their spouses. I know this is obviously easier said then done, but it takes work on both parts. I don't want to forget my vow to Dave...for better...or for worse...till death do us part! So the challenge to myself and everyone reading this is, cherish the marriage that you have, fight for your marriage, take time to do things for one another. Life gets so busy and we forget about taking care of our marriage and spending quality time together. I've decided today I'm going to go out and get Dave something little to let him know I love him, maybe do the same for your spouse, it doesn't have to be a gift, maybe just a card or letter saying how much you love them...Just a thought! Sorry this is so long....